There are some different ways to win friends and influence people. Some people may say that when they meet someone for the first time, they try to overuse their smile to pay attention to them or change their personality more differently than usual.
In contrast to this, others say they don’t want to behave more cheerfully or exaggeratedly because that personality isn’t genuine. Of course we can’t indicate which is a better way to make friends. However, in my case, I prefer the latter one and I have a reason why I think so.
The most important thing for me when I make friends is to accept those who I meet for the first time naturally without decorating my fake personality over my real one. If I make my personality more cheerful or better, I feel to deceive my new friends and even myself. Beside as time passes I start to doubt the relationship between me and them and struggle not to deceive them any more and force myself to get over my bogus personality. Fortunately, I could have made friends in this way without my bogus personality.
we wrote about the same topic,kota.you are write, we've to show others our real personality and not to pretend that we are better. It will make our relationships pure and it will last for long time.
ReplyDeleteYour point Kota (and also Sharifa) is very good one I believe, as I understand you that you want to be honest in your behavior towards your new friends.
ReplyDeleteHowever, from another point of view it could be good not show everyone your real personality but to try to be a better person, friendlier, happier, more patient and whatever else we would like to be. And in showing this behavior to other people and our friends, we can hopefully 'exercise' ourselves and make us better persons.
Some privacy is perhaps a good idea - especially when getting to know someone - exposing your real personality by increments is a tactic used by people who have some (legitimate) insecurities and may in fact be the best thing to do. What do you think?
ReplyDeleteYou've said exactly what I tried to say in my writing.
ReplyDeleteBut I couldn't ^.^ . Totally agree with you, Kota ;) .
It's the enjoyable words I like to read. :)
Hi, Thank you Kota
ReplyDeleteyah good thinking that you accept the new people in the first time that will give you a lot of friends.
Don't annoy anyone and you will live happy. :) :)
Happy if we can make friends without decorating ourselves, isn't it?? It might be difficult although it looks easy. Thank you for your good opinion!!
ReplyDeleteit's good to get a lot ideas about your friends in the first time but you should be careful during u believe that because some people who we call them the my country people who have honey lips and the yellow smiles.
ReplyDeletethey are the people who profiteer the people who are good-hearted and generous.
Cheers, Kota, I know that you never "decorate your fake personality over your real one" )))
ReplyDeletei think it is conditional. although it is hard and not true, we need to "adjust" our character when facing different people so that we can deal with them easier and also to gain less enemies. but of course, true friends won't mind your real personality.
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